Build self confidence with a positive mental attitude

Life will never be all plain sailing. Indeed, hardship, trials and tribulations are part and parcel of being. Encountering difficulty is not a bad thing, what matters is the approach we take to deal with it. A positive frame of mind is key for so many reasons. Positive thinking is proven to enhance performance in productivity and quality. We are typically more confident and perform better if we are feeling good and well.

I have found biological examples of this. A positive frame of mind is because of elevated levels of neuro transmitters such as serotonin that regulate the performance abilities of the brain. The knock effects of a positive frame of mind also include enhanced wellbeing not only better mental health but better in the physical sense aswell. This is because of the increase to the immune system that a positive frame of mind can give you.

The opposite is also true, when we are depressed we are a lot more liable to contracting other diseases and mental health issues. Our relationships with others deteriorate, we start to think irrationally and our confidents can drop. In short this is a frame of mind that is best to avoid at all costs. Feeling depressed from time to time is not unusual but the way in which we decide to face an issue comes from our state of mind.

A positive mental attitude is also about giving you a can do attitude. Individuals who think positively are more likely to see challenges rather than issues or possibilities instead of difficulties. For instance, entrepreneurs that are successful usually are because they are able to spot opportunities for progress in a sector which other people only see problems in. The positive mental attitude of a successful person means that opportunity becomes a reality; because they also have the drive and motivation to succeed and make their dream come true. So as you can see there is much to be gained from a positive mental attitude. The issue for most people is in developing one in the first place.

Creating a positive frame of mind is not some new aged trend. For centuries religious men and scholars alike sought out and created approaches to harness an inner tranquility. While this may have begun to make mankind closer to god the essence of this idea is just as relevant these days. That a positive frame of mind makes us closer to the divine while a negative frame of mind can only lead us in to ways of being which are a detriment to our lives. Monks realised this long ago which is why they devote themselves to a life of abstinence and mental and spiritual fulfilment.

Among the simplest ways to determine your frame of mind is to reflect on how you are with other people. A great way to do this is to picture how you behave towards people you do not know. Are you outgoing and open to meeting and talking with others? Or are you insular and terrified. Believe it or not one of the best ways to get over a negative frame of mind is to change your frame of mind towards the world around you and that means the people in it also. If you are usually uneasy around others then try this experiment.

One night make yourself to strike up a conversation at random in a public place. Do not be concerned about how you look or appear or what you discuss. A reference about the weather or anything will do. Just try it and note how you feel afterwards.

You see, how you are with people will have an effect on the opportunities you get offered. Think about it in this way who is the most likely to get a job between two people of identical ability and experience except for one difference, One is uptight and uncomforable with other people and the other is easy going and comfortable with others. If I was the boss I know which one I would pick for the Job.

Do you find it hard to get into a positive frame of mind? If so check out Quentin’s free video on Overcoming social anxiety.